target.fitness • May 26, 2022
Getting Your 'Fix'
When will you finally get round to fixing how you feel?
As each year passes, we look in the mirror and see the impact of living our life.
Our waist gradually expands, our muscles soften, and we feel a bit more creaky.
We tell ourselves:
"I'll get round to getting back to being fit again, soon..."
But do we?
Another year passes and we find ourselves having the same conversation in our head week after week, year after year…… until we hit our 40s and realise we finally need to do something.
The problem isn't just looking great in a shirt or having the confidence to take off your shirt in public.
It's more than that.
When you don't look after your health and fitness, you greatly diminish the quality of the time you have left.
Not only are you not showing up for your family and kids in the way you always wanted…… you're teaching your children all the bad habits.
You're left feeling frustrated that you didn't do something sooner. All these years you could have made an effort to look and be better, you just didn't get round to it.
Well, now the time for thinking is over. It's time to act.
Stand out and feel stronger - look great in your clothes and fill them out in all the right places, feel stronger and more confident. Become a leader - take back control, feel more confident and calmer. Increase your productivity - do more in less time and be present for those you care about most.
Food is not “just food.” Food is part of culture. Food is part of family. Food is part of celebrations. Food is part of religion. Food is part of tradition. Food is part of so many aspects of life far outside of simply being “fuel.” The goal isn’t to eliminate your “emotional relationship” with food, the goal is to not allow your emotions to dictate your actions. The goal is to be consciously aware of the decisions you make rather than justifying actions you aren’t proud of because of your emotions. So stop looking for a way to suppress or eliminate your emotions. And, instead, hold yourself to your own highest standard. Quit breaking promises to yourself. Recognize your emotions and, simultaneously, don’t allow your emotions to control you. Easier said than done, I know... So is everything in life. But just because it’s easier said than done doesn’t mean it’s not worth doing.
I’ve said this before and I’ll say it again. Some people struggle with self control. They want to lose fat but have difficulty saying “no.” They mentally justify it in saying they’re “flexible dieting.” But flexible dieting doesn’t mean “eat junk and lose fat.” It means “don’t feel guilty for having a treat - but you still have to be wicked consistent to make significant, lasting changes.” For them, practicing self control and saying “no” more often might help them achieve their goal. Other people struggle with food anxiety. They get anxious at the thought of going out to eat at a restaurant because they don’t want to “ruin their progress.” They feel bad for having a slice of cake at their own birthday party. They know it sounds silly and they often give their friends/family/clients amazing nutrition advice that promotes a more flexible approach... but they struggle with it themselves. For them, saying “yes” more often and having a treat might help them achieve their goals. Progress is not only measured in weight loss or fat loss or measurements or numbers or quantifiable data. Progress is also measured in mental, emotional, and behavioral changes. And, candidly, if you don’t improve your mindset first, any physical changes/improvements are going to be short-lived. Because sustainable results only happen with a sustainable mindset.
It’s wild to me that this is even a thing. Often, people message me asking if it’s “ok” to eat fruit because “it has so much sugar 😱.” I get bombarded with messages from “coaches” and “professionals” telling me I’m basically sentencing people to death by encouraging them to eat fruit. What is going on. It’s fruit... Apples and grapes and bananas and oranges and watermelon and strawberries and raspberries and blackberries and blueberries. We’re talking about fruit, people. You’re worried about the “damage” caused by eating FRUIT!? What is going on? No one ever got fat from eating fruit. No one ever became unhealthy from eating fruit. No one ever looked back on their life in their death bed and said “you know...I really should of had less fruit.” No one ever got massively overweight and said, “man...I really think it was the grapes that did it.” Let’s use some common sense. Fruit. Eat it. It’s good for you.
